Just ramblings

So much has been going on and so many things have been bothering me.. back to getting on the weight wagon.. time to lose lose lose

trying to deal with intrusive people has been driving me to a short rope... to short to hang myself and not long enough to lasso them away...

just kidding.. no im not suicidal. just frustrated beyond belief.

anyone out there?

It's about time - Upgraded Charges in Tori Stafford Case

So many people are obsessed with the case of Victoria Stafford. Me Included.

I have been watching the heart wrenching developments of this case with baited breath from day two. When it became obvious that this was not a normal case of child gone missing.

What is a normal case… ok strike that, there is no such thing. It is sad and tragic and miserable and no matter what the result of the case, it is just an eye opener for everyone.

So many people said it can not happen here, why should I walk my kids to and from school every day, I live so close, the town is so small, everyone knows everyone.

OK? So my questions start with, did you know that there are pedophiles living beside you? Did you know your neighbor likes little girls? Did you know that people, young women, only 18 and seemingly nice young men, only 28, are capable of stealing a little girl in front of an entire neighborhood, and entire community, disgracing her and her family and then murdering (allegedly) her and then disposing of her body and carrying on with their life as normal?

No I didn’t think so. That is why you should walk them to school every day and every night. Its not fear, it is reality. It happens everywhere, it can be anyone… there is no “normal” about the people who are deranged enough to even consider this heinous crime.

But today, there was a little bit of good news in a case that has no good in it.

Terri-Lynne McClintic, will be tried equal to her counterpart, charged with kidnapping and first degree murder.

Hopefully they will be smart enough to not allow her a plea bargain for testimony. She deserves no breaks.

She deserves the same fate as Tori Stafford. She deserves to be torn to shreds and disposed of to allow the elements to rot her away. Same goes for Michael.

I could care less how much tragedy they had in their lives. We all have tragedy, hard times, and struggles, what gives them the right to use this as an excuse to get away with ruining the chances of this little girl growing up and becoming something great? What excuses them taking her from her loving father and mother and brother? The friends, the community or the world?

Tori Stafford’s (Alleged) death is not to be in vain. So many people learned that she is the very reason that we need to be aware in this cruel world that there is not always good in the world. It is the reminder that it only takes a moment for the whole world to turn upside down and not make sense. It only takes a second for a seemingly normal day to became terrible not normal.

If you are in Ontario, within a 50 minute drive of Guelph, keep your eyes open for the grey seat from the Honda used (allegedly) in the abduction.

Keep your eyes open for differences in your property, moved items, cleared areas where vehicles may have been parked, shallow graves. Who knows what you are looking for. Keep your eyes out for Tori. She has to be out there somewhere.

 

 

 

 

So why is it that we feel the need to protect scum?

No matter what his role is in the abduction and alleged murder of 8 year old Victoria Stafford, Michael Rafferty was indeed involved. There is a missing, presumed dead, 8 year old girl and we have him in segragation and on suicide watch?

What the hell? We let the one go on some helicopter rides, and enjoy freedom for a few more days with no reward for the parents who are grieving and hurting and wanting to have some closure, and we protect the other one from a fate that he so totally deserves?
The facts of the case are yet to roll out and people are still wondering what happened, how did this happen under everyones nose and no one noticed anything. Then the people who did come forward, were the dismissed? Was it their info that broke the case? Why did it take so long?

What happened with this case that could have been better right from the start?

The amber alert is going to be reviewed? Ok, that is good. I don’t think the amber alert would have done anything, I mean really… the vehicle was unknown, all the media attention and it still took 42 days to break the case?

Something is wrong in this world. And I don’t like it.

 

 

What is the world coming to, and when do we consider the death Penalty?

So the tragic news has finally hit the world. Two people arrested and charged, with murder, abduction and accessory after the fact.

A 28 year old man, Michael Rafferty and an 18 year old girl, Terri-Lynne McClintic.

They are searching for her remains in Guelph.

The whole story is not out yet though. We will have to wait and see.

First I think I, and the rest of the world owe Tara McDonald a little bit of an apology. It was hard not to speculate with all the crazy stories we were hearing. Hopefully the connection between her and this woman is nothing more than aquaintance. It is obvious that her pain is real. The reality of this is something no mother would wish on another. Tara McDonald, I am sorry that I casted doubt on some of the things you said and did. I am sorry you will not have your daughter in your arms, like we were all so hoping you would have.

Tara, I am so sorry for your loss. It is unfathamable what has happened.

I hope you and Rodney lean on each other, find happiness in a life that will be filled with sadness for years, decades to come, there is no words to express how this affects the world, so there are even less words to express how it will affect you.

May you be strong for Daryn, and never let him out of your reach, he will be so hurt, and need so much from you and Rodney right now. Stay strong on your road to recovery and please please do not relapse, it will be so hard to get out of if you do.

Rodney, you have worn your heart on your sleeve this whole time, like it was for Tara to admit her demons, it had to have been hard for you to tell the world you were not always there, and how very raw the pain will be for you when you realize what you had missed out on was time you can not get back now. But know, that a fathers love is so deep. A fathers love whether they are there or not is felt in the heart of every little girl.

There are no words to express our sorrow, mine as a mother, my family’s as a whole, us as a society.

It is like a bad dream, one I wish that I could wake up from. I just dreamt about her a couple days ago, her hair was longer, and she came riding up to us on a snowmobile with an older man. She was smiling, she was happy and she was alive. I so wish that dream would come true. I hope, although I know it wont turn out this way, that the confession is bogus, a disguise of where she really is. Alive. One can hope… like Rodney says, until he sees her remains, he wont believe it and neither can I.

What is this world coming to when an innocent little eight year old girl can not even walk home alone the five blocks to her home without meeting with a monster.

What kind of monster lives inside the body of an 18 year old woman, truly just a young girl herself, inside a 28 year old man, who at first glance appears to be attractive and friendly. The quiet next door neighbor. How can that very same woman hand out flyers of this beautiful missing girl even though she knew the fate that she had met…. How can she stand by and watch the anguish she put a mother, a father, a brother, a family and the world through. How can you do that and not do anything.

I do not understand it and it saddens me for sure! Sadden isn’t a word that even comes close to how I feel. I feel as if it were my own child.

I hugged my girls really tight last night, and as I held them I cried. I cried at the thought of what Tara and Rodney must feel, how they won’t ever feel those arms around them again. How they wont hear her saying I love you Momma or I love you Daddy from her sweet little angel voice again.

Then after I tucked my girls in tightly, and told them how much I loved them, I went upstairs and I felt angry.

Angry that as a society we breed these monsters.

That our justice system will fail the Stafford and McDonald family like they have with so many other families.

That these monsters will tell their sad stories of woe, how they were unwanted, unloved, raised by drunks, abused and neglected by the world. How they were shunned by their peers.

And then they will give them a pass to go back into society, because some how locking them up in segragation to protect them from the people who will kill them behind bars is a breach of their charter of rights.

Where is the chair? The lethal injection? The stoning, the hanging, any of that.  We should brutalize them the same way they brutalized Tori. Without even knowing the facts we know, that if a man and a woman kidnap a child for nefarious sexual purposes that Tori’s fate was not that of ice cream and teddy bears.  Without knowing the facts if there is a body of a beautiful, lively, funny little girl with blonde hair and big blue eyes and an infectious smile lieing in a field somewhere in Guelph, that she met a fate that was not kind, or friendly or decent, and was certainly a breach of her rights to be a carefree little girl. So why should we entertain the nicetties of two losers who deserve a slow and painful death? They have obviously admitted to their crimes or we would not be searching for a body.  We would still be searching for a little girl. To reunite her to her family.

There is nothing that will ever ever make Tara or Rodney feel whole again, but if indeed Tori’s fate is what we suspect it is, would the satisfaction of these two monsters being executed to the full exent possible not give them some solace and some closure?
I would have to hope so.

I beg the courts to not show mercy. I beg the courts to not segragate them, why do we protect this scum? Let them in to the general population and let the others deal with them the best way they know how. Broom handles up the ass, splinters and all. Let him be victimized. Let her be victimized. So they will know the pain they inflicted. Show no mercy, as they did to Tori.

 

To the McDonald Family, to the Stafford Family. There are no words to express how sad and sorry I am for you. May God, whichever you wish, be with you in your hearts, and may you be with each other through these incredibly hard times to come. As a nation we are watching with bated breath for the outcome of this ever so tragic story.

 

We are so sorry for your loss. For all the hell you have endured, the scrutiny you have been through.

With all the love

 

 

 

 

Does it have anything to do with her daughter?

So last night Tara McDonald did an interview and confessed to her addition to oxicontin and that she is on the methadone program to beat her addictions.

 

My very first thought and comment is. Good for you Tara, good for you for recognizing your problem, admitting your problem and seeking help for your problem. No one who has never struggled through addiction will ever truly understand exactly how hard that was for you to do.

 

But then the questions start falling.

 

Tara why did you not disclose this when the first rumour hit the world that you were indeed involved in drugs? You stood on your front step and said that you had not done any drugs since high school… I mean who doesn’t smoke weed in high school. (Which you are right) but to stand there and not tell the whole truth, as much as it is not our business, just ruins your credibility as the case goes on. More people will be skeptical about what you have said thus far as being the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.  It takes a lifetime to build trust and only a second to break it. These people you were not telling the truth to, are the people who want to help you find your daughter. AND ALL INFORMATION IS RELEVANT.

 

Sadly, when you are at the public’s mercy, your whole life is too.

 

That is a sad unfortunate fact, but now knowing that you know the wonderful world of drug dealers, I wonder if your response would be different to their character? Sure there are some nice and friendly drug dealers out there… but it is their business. And seeing their business is illegal, how can one expect that they would not be involved in other things also?? Including abducting a child. People who suffer from addiction are sick. It is an illness, some recover, some never do. Once an addict always an addict. That is what they say.

 

That does not necessarily make you any less of a person, or any less of a mother. It just adds concerns, of course, it is a shady world. People put lots of trust and when it is broken it adds concerns, maybe it is not our business to be concerned, but Tara, we are searching for your child.

 

And there is a real concern about having an addict as a mother, and child of an addict will tell you that. The dangerous of od’ing, the dangers of the associates you know, even if not your friends, these things are to worry about.

 

The focus should not be on your drug problem and only on your daughter, but please understand, that when you stand on your step and say one thing then the next week you change it, people are going to talk, and it still keeps your story out there, but then people run off with their theories, which never ever bode well for you.

 

Tara fighting with Rodney and playing the well here is his dirty laundry game only makes you look childish. You are both missing your daughter… remember, keep the focus there, like Rodney is doing. Like you are doing.

 

It wont help bring her home if they see you fall apart, and it wont be nice for tori to see it either.

 

Bring her home, whoever has her, so this family can begin to heal.

 

 

 

What can you say when you have nothing to say?

 

 

This case of the missing Victoria “Tori” Stafford is the most troubling case I have ever seen, it is so sad for me to even fathum what it would be like to spend my mother’s day minus one child, with no idea where that child would be. As the mother, the father or the grand parent, it would just be too hard to even imagine.

So let us first get the important info out there for those of you who do not know… which would really bother me. Seeing as she has been missing for over a month
All Calls Confidential - No Name Required Call 1-800-387-7962

VICTORIA (TORI) STAFFORD

5576-S

Date Of Birth: Jul 15, 2000

Height: 4'5"

135 cm

Weight: 62 lbs

28 kg

Hair: Blonde, Short

Eyes: Blue

Victoria was wearing black and white running shoes, black leotards, a black velvet pleated skirt, an army green colored

"Hanna Montana" T-shirt that had pink stitching with a hood, a black "Hanna Montana" winter coat with a hood trimmed with

white fur, a black head hand, and butterfly earrings. She was carrying a purple colored "Bratz" bag.

ANYONE WITH INFORMATION PLEASE CONTACT

MISSING SINCE: Apr 08, 2009

MISSING FROM: Woodstock Ontario

 

If you need more information on the details of this case, please just Google her name and you are going to find all the information you will need.

 

There are sightings of her in Alberta, but the police have not looked much beyond Woodstock as it is their belief she is likely still there.

 

They do not believe that there is a random person kidnapping kids, they have indicated that they believe it is someone known to the family.

 

Since the last time I blogged about Victoria, many strange things have happened.

 

Tara, without notifying the police or the father, was whisked away in a limousine that was not seen by any of the reporters, police or neighbors who are always around Tara’s home. She indicated that it was a mysterious, wealthy person who say her plight and was willing to donate any amount of money that would bring Tori home, for the simple reason that they themselves had lost a child, and did not want her to go through that also. This person carries the hair (which coincidentally is the same color as Tori’s ) with her, and that made Tara feel she could be trusted. This happened on a Thursday, she reported it to the public on the Monday. There are many questions swirling. Tara said the police confirmed it was legitimate, that was not their words, they said “Those were Tara’s words, our words are we looked into it and it does not give us any concern in our investigation”

 

Tara has now missed a press conference, she is starting to break down, the stress and reality of this situation is too much for her now. We get that, as parents we all understand that right??

 

Rodney has pushed back his studies, his priority is his daughter, and has been seen day one. But now his focus is without hindrance, there is nothing that will stop him from finding his daughter.

 

The online detectives, and speculators can draw you quite the story. To which there has been much backlash, however people are still talking about Tori, and considering it was 1 month ago she went missing on the 8^th, that is a very good thing. But it is just not enough to erase the pain and suffering of the people who wish she was back at home.

 

Time lines, friends, foes, and crazy stories add to the mystery of this story. We are all waiting with baited breath to see where she has been and when she is coming home.

 

Let us hope that by Victoria Day, Little Tori Stafford will be home.

Missing Girls and Questionable Mothers, Absent Fathers

OK I do not want to be slanderous at all so I have to point out this blog is based totally on opinion and observation of the news coverage on the missing case of Victoria Tori Stafford.

I am a mother. I have two girls. I only ever once thought I lost one of them, at a lake in BC that was TOTALLY crowded. For the three minutes it took me to find my daughter i was shaking, trembling, crying, scared, and mortified of the possibilities that could have happened. Once she was with me I was angry and relieved and so glad all at the same time. She was safe, unharmed and just testing her swimming abilities.... it could have been so tragic !

So when I try to imagine how i would feel on day 1, 3, 6, 9, 13 of my daughter being missing it is incredible hard to imagine me caring about keeping check of my emotions for the sake of the camera, the cousins, the aunts, the uncles, the police, the siblings... I would not be able to do it. My kids are my life. They are every breath I take. Which is why i am overprotective. I will not let my daughter walk to school alone, i will not let her walk home alone, i will not let her out of my site no matter where i live. I live in a small community, the same community that I grew up in, the same one that I was able to stay out til dark and walk to and from school every day. Alone. But it doesn't matter where you live, times have changed and the bad guys are everywhere, if they are smart bad guys they are preying on neighborhoods that think it wont happen here... where the parents are more lacadasial in watching their kids.. because they are so naive to think that it wont happen here.

So the story goes that she was walking home alone only that day because the brother decided to go with a friend. Did he not meet up with his sister to tell her this. Did he not notice a woman waiting for Tori? Or did he know the woman, waiting for Tori?

If you know your daughter is coming home and she is not home in the 15 minutes it takes to walk home, why didn't you call?? wait til 8pm or 6pm whenever it is that they called??

The video doesn't show her holding the woman's hand. every one is seeing things who says that.. watch it again. The father waiting for his son, didn't even flinch. so he doesn't matter unless he saw the woman and knows who she is.

The father. He has shown true and raw emotion, he has not be flaunting his life on the news, and shows genuine concern. He is not in this to get famous. He wants his daughter back. he has made no facade to try to trick us to think he is better than he is or perfect in any way. Many criticize him for being absent from the media.. but he is looking for his daughter. He is there searching for the one thing that makes his life whole... I'm glad he is not up in the cameras right now.

The mother.... hair changes, big sunglasses, inappropriate press conference clothing.. lack of emotion. She just irks me. And then the trust funds? Seriously??
Ever heard of victim services? They will provide all the counselling you and your whole family will need. You don't need trust funds, no one has a heart condition that is going to cost millions to fix without benefits. YOU DO NOT NEED MONEY except maybe to pay off your debts that got you here? It is so hard to be compassionate for a woman who shows no compassion! The phone company wont cut the stafford phone off right now.. and it shouldnt even be in jeopardy of that unless of course you havent been paying your bills? Is this a way to make money? That is what it seems like. Planning events for next month?? One day at a time, what happened to that?? NO BIKE RALLY! What the hell? Your daughter could be back by then? She could be dead? She could still just be living in your aunts basement?

How does a house that is surrounded by media and police and gawkers get a 5 foot plastic tree dropped off and no one notice??

it looks so fishy and it is soo hard.

No one but the police know the cold hard facts, well maybe the mother and her shady shady boyfriend.

The fact is Victoria Tori Stafford is still missing and it is affecting all of Canada. Everyone wants to know how an 8 year old vanishes into thin air?

The speculation doesnt help of course.

Just find her, bring her home. And mom, if you know where she is, tell them. You should be brought down. Your little girl is suffering because of you!

I know I will take slack from it, but frick. What else??